Why Am I Depressed and How do I Cope?

The ideal American holiday season is full of parties, fun, good food, family, and joy. However, for some, this time of year can bring sadness and depression. Depression is a persistent feeling of sadness and loss of interest. It is not something that one can just snap out of. Life has its ebbs and flows. One can never be always happy, but neither should one be always sad. There are many causes of depression including unresolved anger, burn-out, hormonal or chemical imbalance, major life changes, and spiritual neglect.

For a list of symptoms of depression: https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/depression/symptoms-causes/syc-20356007#:~:text=Depression%20is%20a%20mood%20disorder%20that%20causes%20a%20persistent%20feeling,of%20emotional%20and%20physical%20problems.

Finding balance in all areas of life is a life-long pursuit in the midst of constantly changing demands and responsibilities. If you are experiencing moments or occasional days of depression, you might need to schedule time for self-evaluation, couple evaluation, and family evaluation. Moms tend to burn-out when they give more than they are being given. Think of a sponge. You can’t get water from a dry sponge. Neither can we give love, motivation, energy, grace, joy, etc. out of a dry heart. First we must be filled up, then when life squeezes us, we have cheer to spread.

The world culture is overdoing self-care right now. But Jesus first said, “Love your neighbor as yourself.” It’s okay to take an hour break in the middle of the day, a weekend out with your husband, or time off of school to get life back into balance.

• A daily time with God is essential for keeping your heart soft and full.
• Have systems in place such as meal plans, daily chores, and schedules.
• Don’t overplan your day. Kids need time to be bored. It’s in the in-between that creativity thrives.
• Gals, we need each other. Reach out to a friend and make a grown-up play date – fun, not  brainstorming school.

For more ideas check out Taking Care of Mom: How to Avoid Burnout by Dara Halydier https://www.abidingtruthministry.com/product/taking-care-of-mom-avoiding-burnout/

Lastly, if depression continues relentlessly or you have thoughts of death or suicide, please seek professional help. There is no shame in getting help. We are all human and need each other.